Author: Jess Bonasso (Jess Bonasso)

How to Do Less So You Can Receive More

How to Do Less So You Can Receive More

If you’re like most high-capacity woman, you’ve probably become exceptionally skilled at making things happen. You anticipate. You organize. You solve. You remember. You take responsibility. You keep things moving. šŸƒā€ā™€ļø And then you wonder… How can I set aside time for me to rest and receive when there’s so much to do? As I...

The Real Reason Why Receiving Makes You Feel Guilty

The Real Reason Why Receiving Makes You Feel Guilty

What if the guilt you feel when receiving isn’t about receiving at all—but about what you’ve learned to believe you must do to be worthy? If you’re like most high-capacity woman, chances are you’re really good at giving the following: Your time. Your energy. Your attention. Your expertise. Your care. But when someone offers to...

The Hidden Cost of Not Receiving

The Hidden Cost of Not Receiving

If you’re like most high-capacity women, you’re exceptionally good at handling and carrying a LOT, which leave very little time left over at the end of the day. You give your time, your energy, your attention, your care, your ideas, your emotional labor, your presence. You pride yourself on being dependable, generous, and capable. But...

What If Your Life Actually Held and Supported You?

What If Your Life Actually Held and Supported You?

If you follow the rhythm and cycles of the moon, you know that today is a New Moon in Cancer, which is inviting us to explore one simple, yet life-changing question: What truly nourishes me now? šŸ’• It’s a beautiful question—but if you’re like most women I work with, there’s an even deeper question hiding...

Why You Can’t Think Your Way Back Home to Yourself

Why You Can’t Think Your Way Back Home to Yourself

Over the past several weeks, we’ve explored where you might be abandoning yourself, why it develops, why choosing yourself can feel so guilty, and the difference between responsibility and self-sacrifice. If you’ve seen yourself in the conversations we’ve been having, you’re not alone. But there’s one more truth I want to share with you… Awareness...

Why Choosing Yourself Feels So Guilty

Why Choosing Yourself Feels So Guilty

If you’ve ever set a boundary, asked for what you need, taken time for yourself, or said no to something you didn’t want to do, you’ve probably felt it. Guilt. 😩 You know what I’m talking about… It’s that old familiar feeling that can be so uncomfortable you quickly abandon your needs and go back...

The Difference Between Responsibility and Self-Sacrifice

The Difference Between Responsibility and Self-Sacrifice

Do you know any high-capacity women with a lot of responsibility on their plate? A high-capacity woman is a woman with an exceptional ability to carry, manage, create, lead, endure, and perform at a high level—often while simultaneously supporting the needs, emotions, and responsibilities of others. If this is you or someone in your life,...

You Didn’t Abandon Yourself for No Reason

You Didn’t Abandon Yourself for No Reason

You might be curious about the idea of self-abandonment that I presented in my last newsletter and blog post and wondering to yourself… Why in the world would I ever choose to abandon myself? There’s something important I want you to understand: You didn’t abandon yourself for no reason. Most high-capacity women don’t wake up...

Where Are You Abandoning Yourself?

Where Are You Abandoning Yourself?

As you may remember, I’ve been deep in the throes of writing my very first solo book and as the date of my 19th anniversary in business is upon us, I’m celebrating the power and progression of the work that I’ve been doing for almost two decades now. šŸŽ‰ When I first started my business...