Over the past two months, we’ve been exploring the art of receiving—and why receiving can feel so uncomfortable for women who have spent years being the ones who give, manage, anticipate, and take care of everything.
But there’s another question worth asking:
What if the reason you’re unable to receive is because you’re carrying too much? 🧺
Not just too much on your calendar.
Too much responsibility.
Too much emotional labor.
Too many decisions that need to be made.
Too many things you’re convinced you should handle yourself.
And sometimes, the hardest thing to put down isn’t all the things on your to-do list. ☑️
It’s a deeper core belief that:
You are the one who has to carry it all.
Maybe because…
You’re solving a problem someone else could solve.
You’re managing someone else’s emotions.
You’re taking responsibility for how everyone else feels.
You’re doing something simply because you’re afraid it won’t get done “right” if you don’t do it yourself.
Or, maybe you’ve become so accustomed to being the capable and responsible one that you’ve stopped questioning whether something is actually yours to carry.
This is where self-abandonment can become incredibly subtle. 😰
And, we don’t always abandon ourselves by saying yes when we want to say no.
Sometimes we just abandon ourselves by continually saying:
I’ll handle it.
I’ll take care of it.
It’s easier if I just do it myself.
They need me.
But what happens when you stop?
What becomes available when you aren’t spending all of your energy managing, fixing, and carrying?
Space.
And in that space that we create for ourselves is where receiving truly becomes possible. ✨
Your Practice for This Week
Here’s your invitation for self-reflection this week:
Where in your life are you carrying more than is actually yours to carry?
Choose one thing that you’ve been doing, managing, or carrying that isn’t truly yours and then ask yourself the following questions:
What would happen if I stopped carrying this?
What are all the possible ways I could stop carrying this?
You don’t necessarily have to stop carrying or drop this one thing altogether. It’s simply a few questions to get you thinking about how to stop carrying what’s no longer yours to carry.
For example, you might delegate it. Ask for help. Set a boundary. Let someone else figure it out. Or simply decide that it no longer needs to be done or is no longer yours to carry.
Once you’ve made a decision on how to handle this thing, notice what happens inside you.
Any discomfort that arises is information.
You may actually discover that doing less isn’t actually the hard part…
It’s trusting yourself not to keep over-committing.
And trusting that you are still worthy, responsible, loving, or valuable when you’re not giving all of your time and energy away.
This is where the real work lies and is what leads to the deeper invitation of receiving, which is:
Not simply to let someone give you something… but to stop giving so much of yourself away that there’s nothing left to receive. 👐
So as we close out our exploration on receiving, I want to invite you to consider, which is:
What one thing are you willing to stop doing, controlling, or managing so you can create more room to receive?
Because sometimes the most powerful act of self-rescue isn’t adding something new to your life or your plate.
It’s about finally putting something down to make room for you. 💕
As a reminder, I have two invitations to help you receive this week and beyond.
First, join us for FREE at this week’s Wisdom circle in my Brave-Hearted Sisterhood on Wednesday, 9/16 from 12 – 1 pm MT, where we’ll be exploring the questions I’ve posed here today.
Simply shoot me an email with the word WHOLENESS and I’ll send you the Zoom connection details! 💻
And second, there are ONLY 2 ½ WEEKS LEFT to qualify for my early registration bonus of3 x self-rescue support sessions that I’m offering for my upcoming Radical Wholeness Retreat in December (2nd – 6th).
To qualify, simply submit a down payment of $200 by September 30th to lock in this bonus, offering you on-going support well beyond the retreat at an incredible value!
Imagine…
Magical mountain views
Mineral-rich hot springs
Hot sauna
Cold plunge
Spa services
Healthy food
Daily yoga
Daily empowerment
Community
Connection
Along with ample down time each day for rest and reflection!
Held at the breath-taking Joyful Journey Hot Springs and Spa here in colorful Colorado, this is a chance for you to take four glorious days and nights away to rest, reflect and receive deeply.
PLUS! If you bring one or more friends, you’ll each receive a Sisterhood discount of $198 off.
If you’ve been craving time away to receive and make yourself a priority—maybe for the first time in a long time—this is your long-awaited invitation to come home.
Registration ends November 15th. Flexible payment plans are available.
Will you be there??
Click 👉 HERE to learn more and to register.
And in the meantime, here’s to carrying less so you can receive more. 🌠
In gratitude…
Jess Bonasso, also known as The Self Rescue Goddess, is the founder & CEO of Brave Life Consulting, a women-led company committed to the growth, healing & evolution of all women.
After experiencing burnout & a midlife crisis in her early 30’s, Jess committed to her own self-rescue and then later developed the Brave-Hearted Way, a simpler, easier way for high-capacity women to break free from self-abandonment and come back home to themselves without everything falling apart.
Today, she lives a deeply fulfilling life and has a thriving business that empowers women who lead to reclaim their time, energy and emotional bandwidth so they can create well-nourished lives and careers they love.
With over 20 years’ worth of expertise in alternative & mind-body healing, Jess has an in-depth knowledge of the Enneagram personality system and is as an accredited practitioner of The Journey Method®, giving her the trauma-informed expertise & therapeutic skills to support you in unraveling the root cause of anything that stands in the way of your happiness, health, or wealth.
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