As a recovering people-pleaser and peacemaker, I used to expend a lot of energy to make people happy and keep the peace with others, at the cost of my own needs and desires. I recently read an astrology report about how our relationships are a mirror for our relationship to ourselves for the New Moon in Libra that just occurred on 10/10. It further brought to light the people-pleasing and peacemaking patterns I see time and time again in a lot of the high-capacity women I work with. To support you in finding balance in your relationship with yourself and...

I want to ask you a question. How often do you tell yourself you’ll choose yourself later? When things calm down. When work isn’t so demanding. When the kids need you less. When you have more time. When you have more money. When everyone else is okay. And because you’re a high-capacity woman, I’m willing to bet you can make “later” work for a very long time. You keep showing up. You keep taking care of things. You keep doing what needs to be done. You keep putting your own needs somewhere down the list. Until one day, you realize...

Over the past two months, we’ve been exploring the art of receiving—and why receiving can feel so uncomfortable for women who have spent years being the ones who give, manage, anticipate, and take care of everything. But there’s another question worth asking: What if the reason you’re unable to receive is because you’re carrying too much? 🧺 Not just too much on your calendar. Too much responsibility. Too much emotional labor. Too many decisions that need to be made. Too many things you’re convinced you should handle yourself. And sometimes, the hardest thing to put down isn’t all the things...

If you’re like most high-capacity woman, you’ve probably become exceptionally skilled at making things happen. You anticipate. You organize. You solve. You remember. You take responsibility. You keep things moving. 🏃‍♀️ And then you wonder… How can I set aside time for me to rest and receive when there’s so much to do? As I talk about extensively in my soon-to-be released book Radical Wholeness, one of the reasons why this is difficult is a result of something I call the Self-Abandonment Trap. 🪤 Often an unconscious trap, this is what happens when a high-capacity woman builds her life around...

What if the guilt you feel when receiving isn’t about receiving at all—but about what you’ve learned to believe you must do to be worthy? If you’re like most high-capacity woman, chances are you’re really good at giving the following: Your time. Your energy. Your attention. Your expertise. Your care. But when someone offers to help you, compliments you, takes something off your plate, or simply wants to give something to you, do you find it difficult to receive? If so, that resistance you’re feeling might come with an unexpected feeling: Guilt. You might even think to yourself one or...

If you’re like most high-capacity women, you’re exceptionally good at handling and carrying a LOT, which leave very little time left over at the end of the day. You give your time, your energy, your attention, your care, your ideas, your emotional labor, your presence. You pride yourself on being dependable, generous, and capable. But here’s the question very few of us ever stop to ask ourselves: How well do you receive? 👐 Not just compliments or gifts — but support. Rest. Love. Help. Joy. Pleasure. Appreciation. Space. Care. Even honoring your own needs and desires. Many of us have...

If you follow the rhythm and cycles of the moon, you know that today is a New Moon in Cancer, which is inviting us to explore one simple, yet life-changing question: What truly nourishes me now? 💕 It’s a beautiful question—but if you’re like most women I work with, there’s an even deeper question hiding underneath it. One that often makes the first one so difficult to answer: What if you didn’t always have to be the responsible one? For so many high-capacity women, both questions can be surprisingly difficult to answer. Not because we don’t know what we need…...

Over the past several weeks, we’ve explored where you might be abandoning yourself, why it develops, why choosing yourself can feel so guilty, and the difference between responsibility and self-sacrifice. If you’ve seen yourself in the conversations we’ve been having, you’re not alone. But there’s one more truth I want to share with you… Awareness is where healing begins. It is not where healing ends. You can understand exactly why you over-give, overwork, over-function, or put everyone else’s needs ahead of your own…and still find yourself doing it today, tomorrow and the day after that. Not because you lack discipline....

If you’ve ever set a boundary, asked for what you need, taken time for yourself, or said no to something you didn’t want to do, you’ve probably felt it. Guilt. 😩 You know what I’m talking about… It’s that old familiar feeling that can be so uncomfortable you quickly abandon your needs and go back to doing what you’ve always done. Over-riding your own needs or over-giving to the point of self-sacrifice. If you’re like many high-capacity women, you end up doing one or more of the following: You end up saying yes when you want to say no. You...

Do you know any high-capacity women with a lot of responsibility on their plate? A high-capacity woman is a woman with an exceptional ability to carry, manage, create, lead, endure, and perform at a high level—often while simultaneously supporting the needs, emotions, and responsibilities of others. If this is you or someone in your life, here’s what I want you to know… Many women in our performance-based culture have been taught that being responsible means always being available, always pushing through, and always putting other people’s needs ahead of their own. But here’s a hard honest truth that I really want...