If you’re like most high-capacity woman, you’ve probably become exceptionally skilled at making things happen. You anticipate. You organize. You solve. You remember. You take responsibility. You keep things moving. 🏃‍♀️ And then you wonder… How can I set aside time for me to rest and receive when there’s so much to do? As I talk about extensively in my soon-to-be released book Radical Wholeness, one of the reasons why this is difficult is a result of something I call the Self-Abandonment Trap. 🪤 Often an unconscious trap, this is what happens when a high-capacity woman builds her life around...

What if the guilt you feel when receiving isn’t about receiving at all—but about what you’ve learned to believe you must do to be worthy? If you’re like most high-capacity woman, chances are you’re really good at giving the following: Your time. Your energy. Your attention. Your expertise. Your care. But when someone offers to help you, compliments you, takes something off your plate, or simply wants to give something to you, do you find it difficult to receive? If so, that resistance you’re feeling might come with an unexpected feeling: Guilt. You might even think to yourself one or...

If you’re like most high-capacity women, you’re exceptionally good at handling and carrying a LOT, which leave very little time left over at the end of the day. You give your time, your energy, your attention, your care, your ideas, your emotional labor, your presence. You pride yourself on being dependable, generous, and capable. But here’s the question very few of us ever stop to ask ourselves: How well do you receive? 👐 Not just compliments or gifts — but support. Rest. Love. Help. Joy. Pleasure. Appreciation. Space. Care. Even honoring your own needs and desires. Many of us have...

If you follow the rhythm and cycles of the moon, you know that today is a New Moon in Cancer, which is inviting us to explore one simple, yet life-changing question: What truly nourishes me now? 💕 It’s a beautiful question—but if you’re like most women I work with, there’s an even deeper question hiding underneath it. One that often makes the first one so difficult to answer: What if you didn’t always have to be the responsible one? For so many high-capacity women, both questions can be surprisingly difficult to answer. Not because we don’t know what we need…...

Over the past several weeks, we’ve explored where you might be abandoning yourself, why it develops, why choosing yourself can feel so guilty, and the difference between responsibility and self-sacrifice. If you’ve seen yourself in the conversations we’ve been having, you’re not alone. But there’s one more truth I want to share with you… Awareness is where healing begins. It is not where healing ends. You can understand exactly why you over-give, overwork, over-function, or put everyone else’s needs ahead of your own…and still find yourself doing it today, tomorrow and the day after that. Not because you lack discipline....

If you’ve ever set a boundary, asked for what you need, taken time for yourself, or said no to something you didn’t want to do, you’ve probably felt it. Guilt. 😩 You know what I’m talking about… It’s that old familiar feeling that can be so uncomfortable you quickly abandon your needs and go back to doing what you’ve always done. Over-riding your own needs or over-giving to the point of self-sacrifice. If you’re like many high-capacity women, you end up doing one or more of the following: You end up saying yes when you want to say no. You...

Do you know any high-capacity women with a lot of responsibility on their plate? A high-capacity woman is a woman with an exceptional ability to carry, manage, create, lead, endure, and perform at a high level—often while simultaneously supporting the needs, emotions, and responsibilities of others. If this is you or someone in your life, here’s what I want you to know… Many women in our performance-based culture have been taught that being responsible means always being available, always pushing through, and always putting other people’s needs ahead of their own. But here’s a hard honest truth that I really want...

You might be curious about the idea of self-abandonment that I presented in my last newsletter and blog post and wondering to yourself… Why in the world would I ever choose to abandon myself? There’s something important I want you to understand: You didn’t abandon yourself for no reason. Most high-capacity women don’t wake up one day and consciously decide to disconnect from their needs, silence their truth, or override their intuition. They’ve simply learned over the years to adapt to a performance-based culture that rewards them for their sacrifice. They’ve learned how to become who they needed to be...

As you may remember, I’ve been deep in the throes of writing my very first solo book and as the date of my 19th anniversary in business is upon us, I’m celebrating the power and progression of the work that I’ve been doing for almost two decades now. 🎉 When I first started my business back in May 2007, I was on a mission to help women who struggle with the same kind of burnout I experienced in my early 30’s learn how to master the art of self-rescue. As a result of that commitment, there’ve been hundreds of women...

What if the resistance or discomfort you feel is pointing you toward the very thing you’re meant to step into? For me personally, this always ends up being true. In fact, there’ve been moments like this over the past two months I’ve had to navigate my way through as I write my very first self-authored book. 📚 Moments where I felt stuck in my writing. Or doubting myself. Wondering if the message and wisdom I want to convey will resonate for my readers… But you know what? I recognized immediately these moments of resistance and discomfort are just old patterns...