Author: Jess Bonasso (Jess Bonasso)

Why Over-Giving Can Lead to Self-Sacrifice

Why Over-Giving Can Lead to Self-Sacrifice

Do you ever feel resentful or drained because you give so much of your time or energy to others? I know I have & I can tell you from many first-hand experiences of feeling resentful or drained throughout my life that if you tend to feel this way a lot, it could mean you are...

Why Rest & Play Can Boost Your Productivity

Why Rest & Play Can Boost Your Productivity

What percentage of time do you set aside time for rest & play each week? If you’re like most hard-working professionals, the percentage of time allowed for rest & play is probably FAR less than the time you spend working each week. I get it… For years I worked long days & hours each week...

Why Conflict Resolution & Repair Matters

Why Conflict Resolution & Repair Matters

Have you ever been in conflict that you couldn’t work through with a friend, spouse, family member, client or co-worker? If you have, you know how stressful, draining & distracting this can be! So why does this matter when it comes to self-rescue? Because, dear one, at the end of the day if you have...

Why Working Hard is Not Smart

Why Working Hard is Not Smart

Did you grow up with the belief that you had to work hard to get ahead & be successful in life? I know I did! In fact, I began working hard as a child because early on I learned that my achievements resulted in the recognition & praise that I so deeply desires AND if...

Why Self-Love is Not Selfish

Why Self-Love is Not Selfish

Do you believe that “self-love” is selfish? Speaking for myself personally, I used to think that self-love was not only selfish but also FAR less of a priority than giving my time & energy away to please, appease & be there for others. Why? Like many of us, I can trace my belief about self-love...

Why Striving for Success Could Lead to Burnout

Why Striving for Success Could Lead to Burnout

What does “success” mean to you personally? Like many of us, I had a very unhealthy reference point for what living a successful life of looked like as a child, which ultimately created a lot of unhappiness for me as an adult. My parents divorced when I was 2 & I went to live with...

Why Not Knowing Your Needs Can Set You Up For  Failure

Why Not Knowing Your Needs Can Set You Up For Failure

When it comes to the relationships in your life, do you have a clear sense of what your needs & desires are for intimacy, connection & belonging? If not, the relationship you have with both yourself & those you care is much more likely to fail or crumble! Trust me, I know because pretty much...

Why Hard Things Makes Us Stronger

Why Hard Things Makes Us Stronger

Have you ever have had a hard thing in your life that you’ve struggled to overcome or embrace? I know I have! In fact, there have been many times throughout my life where I actually believed that I was a magnet for bad luck & a victim to hard things that came my way. Can...